Saturday, April 2, 2011
Sports: The best medicine?
Just a quick one this morning. In this day of work stoppages, multi-million dollar athletes getting arrested, Mom and Dads fighting in little league games, and other bruises on the world of sports; there are stories out there that show that sports bring people and communities together. These stories are usually overshadowed by the bad things going on in sports. In this week that is known as one of the greatest sports weeks of the year with the Final Four, the start of MLB Baseball, and The Masters; here are some stories that I have heard this week that show that sports and the camaraderie that sports brings is truly a medicine that can cure some of the ailments of this old world we live in. The first was shared by Hollie Bryant Purcell on her Facebook page this week: http://www.godvine.com/Injury-Turns-into-Inspiration-for-One-High-School-Girl-323.html If this one doesn't get you sniffing, nothing will. The next two stories you will have to look up on http://www.today.com/ because the links have not been posted on the show this morning. The first concerned a 13 year old girl with a disease that is forcing her to have one of her legs amputated in order for her to have a better life. She was a manager/helper on her middle school basketball team. Her dream was to actually play in a game before having her surgery. In a twist where her coach had already agreed to let her play but was planning on a later game, an absence of one of the team members was on a choir tour set her dream into motion. A surprise to her family who were attending the game. She played and even scored! Check the Today show site out later to see the story! She is an awesome young lady! Another story on the Today show touched me this morning. This shows how communities can come together in amazing ways when needed. The mother and father of one of Butler's players were going to be content to stay at home and watch their son play in Houston in the Final Four this weekend. The father was a mail carrier in this small Indiana town who had only missed one day of work in the last 33 years. A father of 10 children, the outlook was bleak as far as seeing their son play in person. It was bleak until the town took it upon themselves to raise money to send this father and mother to the finals. Donations ranged from a quarter to checks for over a thousand dollars. Needless to say, their dream came true and Lester Holt interviewed the parents as they sat in Houston waiting for their son's game this evening. Again, check http://www.today.com/ later today. I am sure they will have the link up soon. Our local sports radio station, WCCP, is another shining example of sports inspiring giving and helping in the community. Over the years, there have been numerous causes and organizations supported through the efforts of Dan Scott, Lee Harper, and the other employees at the station. The listeners and callers who fuss and argue on the air each day on the station drop all these rival views at a moment's notice when the call for help goes out. In short, and I meant this to be shorter than what it turned out, sports with all it's bad news and blemishes can really pull a community and nation together when a good cause and good story comes up. Too bad the bad stories overshadow the good. Get out and enjoy this beautiful weekend!!! Sandmon
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
A little blue...
Most of you who read this blog know me. I am a simple man. I have simple tastes. I have been known to wear my heart heart upon my sleeve. I live a somewhat spartan existence, alone with a few pets and wildlife to keep me amused here in the valley. I have the luxury in my life of many friends who love me. I also have the pleasure of having my family in close proximity. I was raised by my mother, a single mother. I guess you could say I was raised by committee as well. The committee being my Grandaddy, Granny, My two Aunts, and my Uncle. I was taught the values of right and wrong. As I absorbed every lesson passed into my curly mop, I molded my values.
As I got older, I retained these values. Notice I said retained. Not neccessarily lived them. As any young adult, I hit my highs and lows. I did some things I regret back in those younger years. I know I hurt my family in some of those instances. I created hardships for them. Nothing major mind you. But hardships nonetheless. I hurt some of my friends as well. I think the majority of us can say we did some stupid stuff and regret it into our older years.
Those actions, while wrong, served as building blocks of my life. Each of us has those blocks that we build on. Sometimes, mostly around the holidays or another higher digit birthday, I will hit what I have termed a "Blue Funk". We all have different terms for such reflective moods. The past few days I have entered the beginnings of such a "Funk". I guess this funk has been lurking since the last couple of days in August.
We have had fun over these past few months making light of the break-in of my home. Hell, laughter is the best medicine. You guys have listened to me bitch, gripe, and moan about it. We have joked and laughed our asses off at the sheer absurdity of it all. I welcomed all that laughter. Hell, I probably wouldn't have retained what sanity I have without it.
Today, in some dealings with the case and the detective, I learned that the suspect would not return yet another piece of property he stole from me, choosing instead to destroy it. At least that is what he told the detective. I also learned that he has "no use for me", so to speak. Awww. How sweet. The feeling is mutual. Nothing that anyone in my immediate family has ever done has hurt the family as much as this idiot. This is the young man who my mother took into her home to try and help after some of his early run-ins with the law. This is the young man who has continued to take advantage of those who have tried to help him over the years. The young man who has treated his brother like a dog. The young man who has been arrested multiple times since being bailed out of jail by people who are seemingly unaware that they are "enablers".
Early on in this mess, although still stung and upset by the break in, "wearing the heart on the sleeve" gave me some sort of solace. This was not the cousin I used to watch sleep when he first came home from the hospital, all hooked up to a heart monitor because of SIDS. This was not the cousin I lent my shotgun (the same one he stole) to so he could go hunting over at my grandparent's house. This was not the cousin I tried to talk to about the drugs and where they were going to lead him if he didn't quit. This was a methhead punk with a bunch of methhead punk friends who was not going to change because he didn't want to. A punk with people closest to him continuing to provide him avenues to continue his actions.
In short, I no longer feel safe in my own home. Somewhere in the dank recessess of the backside of Pickens County, my personal information (along with my freakin TV) is in the possession of some methhead. I have nightmares about someone breaking in my home and trying to kill me. I see the shame on my Granny's face when one of her brothers or sister asks if her grandchild is still in jail. I see my other family members not knowing if they are going to be the next victim. I see my relationship with my uncle, who I always thought of a father figure to me, deteriorating beyond repair. All because of an idiot who can't seem to see through the meth-haze what he has done.
The Lord preaches forgiveness. I was brought up to believe this. One day I will forgive him. After today, I have given up the forgiveness crap. I want his ass in jail. Maybe it will help him, maybe not. But at least he will be away from the pieces of sh@# trash he has chosen to associate with the past few years.
Thanks for listening to me ramble.
Sandmon
As I got older, I retained these values. Notice I said retained. Not neccessarily lived them. As any young adult, I hit my highs and lows. I did some things I regret back in those younger years. I know I hurt my family in some of those instances. I created hardships for them. Nothing major mind you. But hardships nonetheless. I hurt some of my friends as well. I think the majority of us can say we did some stupid stuff and regret it into our older years.
Those actions, while wrong, served as building blocks of my life. Each of us has those blocks that we build on. Sometimes, mostly around the holidays or another higher digit birthday, I will hit what I have termed a "Blue Funk". We all have different terms for such reflective moods. The past few days I have entered the beginnings of such a "Funk". I guess this funk has been lurking since the last couple of days in August.
We have had fun over these past few months making light of the break-in of my home. Hell, laughter is the best medicine. You guys have listened to me bitch, gripe, and moan about it. We have joked and laughed our asses off at the sheer absurdity of it all. I welcomed all that laughter. Hell, I probably wouldn't have retained what sanity I have without it.
Today, in some dealings with the case and the detective, I learned that the suspect would not return yet another piece of property he stole from me, choosing instead to destroy it. At least that is what he told the detective. I also learned that he has "no use for me", so to speak. Awww. How sweet. The feeling is mutual. Nothing that anyone in my immediate family has ever done has hurt the family as much as this idiot. This is the young man who my mother took into her home to try and help after some of his early run-ins with the law. This is the young man who has continued to take advantage of those who have tried to help him over the years. The young man who has treated his brother like a dog. The young man who has been arrested multiple times since being bailed out of jail by people who are seemingly unaware that they are "enablers".
Early on in this mess, although still stung and upset by the break in, "wearing the heart on the sleeve" gave me some sort of solace. This was not the cousin I used to watch sleep when he first came home from the hospital, all hooked up to a heart monitor because of SIDS. This was not the cousin I lent my shotgun (the same one he stole) to so he could go hunting over at my grandparent's house. This was not the cousin I tried to talk to about the drugs and where they were going to lead him if he didn't quit. This was a methhead punk with a bunch of methhead punk friends who was not going to change because he didn't want to. A punk with people closest to him continuing to provide him avenues to continue his actions.
In short, I no longer feel safe in my own home. Somewhere in the dank recessess of the backside of Pickens County, my personal information (along with my freakin TV) is in the possession of some methhead. I have nightmares about someone breaking in my home and trying to kill me. I see the shame on my Granny's face when one of her brothers or sister asks if her grandchild is still in jail. I see my other family members not knowing if they are going to be the next victim. I see my relationship with my uncle, who I always thought of a father figure to me, deteriorating beyond repair. All because of an idiot who can't seem to see through the meth-haze what he has done.
The Lord preaches forgiveness. I was brought up to believe this. One day I will forgive him. After today, I have given up the forgiveness crap. I want his ass in jail. Maybe it will help him, maybe not. But at least he will be away from the pieces of sh@# trash he has chosen to associate with the past few years.
Thanks for listening to me ramble.
Sandmon
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Earnhardt
The water of the Chattooga slipped silently under the Hwy 76 bridge. The full moon shown through the white pines and oaks up the long hill toward Clayton. Then came the rumble. You heard it coming but saw no lights. The cubic inches of the Cadillac engine took over the road and surrounding forest. If you had been standing there, perhaps the only thing you would have seen was the '40 Ford sliding past you amidst the thunder, all lights off, a determined and furrowed brow looking out the windshield, and the back of the car almost dragging the pavement. That precious clear liquid was stacked in quarts and gallons safely in the trunk. As the roar slowly climbed the hills into Long Creek on the other side of the bridge, red and blue lights appeared around the curve at the top of the hill on the Clayton side. The Georgia State Patrol slowed and turned around in the middle of the bridge. "Maybe Ben Jones over in Oconee can catch 'em." uttered the GA Trooper as he headed back toward Clayton.
Thus another game of cat and mouse was over. This game took place all over the hills of the South each night in the post war '40's. These young men challenged the law and the road each night to transport clear liquor to the towns and cities in the Foothills and Piedmont. Poverty was rampant in the South and a man could make a better living turning his corn into liquor instead of selling it by the bushel at market. An interesting product of these games with the law started coming to light. At many so called racetracks, mostly short circular rutted venues cut into the red clay, these young men brought their hauling machines to see just what they could do against their brethren. The movement flourished and the venues added bleachers and some sort of schedule. Many promoters at these tracks wound up in fights with their racers at the end of the event due to enforcement of "rules" that were made up on the go. Greenville-Pickens, Gaffney, Metrolina, Concord, Bowman-Gray, Waynesville, Asheville, and many other tracks hosted a ragtag bunch of competitors each week. Finally, in a smoky hotel in Daytona Beach, FL, one of these racers named France and a table full of others sat down and created Nascar. Nascar was to be a sort of governing organization for these races all over the Southeast. The first race of what was to become the "Winston Cup Series"(yes I will always call it that, Sprint be Damned!)was held in Charlotte in 1949. The rumble of that '40 Ford with the Cadillac engine came down out of the mountains and began a sport that would spread across the country.
Ralph Earnhardt had a shop in the backyard of his home on the corner of Coach and Sedan Street in Kannapolis, NC. He was a "linthead." He and thousands of other men and women across the South eeked out a living in the cotton mill. Ralph hated it. He loved racing. He walked away from the mill and concentrated on his racing. It was a rough life. His wife Martha and their children lived a lean life. Then, Ralph started winning. He was winning all over the Southeast, becoming Track Champion at numerous venues. They raced all week back in those days. Ralph and crew would get home from Greenville-Pickens and immediately prepare the car for the following night's race at Asheville. On and on the cycle went with a tow headed young Dale watching in the background, playing in the infield in the creek that used to run through Greenville-Pickens Speedway and risking a whipping when Ralph or Martha saw those muddy clothes. Gradually, Ralph let Dale grab a wrench or two and help him work on that mythical #8. Ralph was hard on his boy and instilled a work ethic in young Dale's mind. Ralph was disappointed when his son dropped out of school, quit his job at the mill and wanted to race like his dad. Dale was not to be deterred but Ralph gave him no quarter. Dale married young and became a father. His racing career stuttered. Dale would race just to pay the bill for his tires from his previous week's race. Life was hard. Ralph saw his son struggle. He may have helped him here and there but let Dale make his own way. Ralph was Dale's father but he was also his idol. The world seemingly crashed down on Dale in '73 when Martha found Ralph dead of a heart attack in their kitchen. His father, his mentor, his role model was gone. Dale's eyes hardened at that point and he began to bear down on his competition. Later in life, Dale told of his love of the Travis Tritt song, "I'm Gonna be Somebody". That is what he had told Ralph in those early years. In 1975, Dale drove his first Cup race in Charlotte for Ed Negre. The legend had started with a 22nd place finish.
Throughout his early career, Dale was chastised by competitors and fans alike for his hard charging style. Daryl Waltrip crossed paths with "Ironhead" numerous times. As he raced to rookie of the year his first full season, fans took note. People began to see themselves in the mustached former "Linthead" from Kannapolis. This "Everyman" did things on a racetrack they only dreamed of doing on I-85. He moved slower cars out of the way with the "Chrome Horn" and threaded his way through gaps where only angels would dare to tread. He dominated the sport leaving competitors shaking their heads on how in the world he did it.
The blue and yellow of that Wrangler car was very similar to the Bobcat's Blue and gold. The seemingly giant of a man with the big mustache and cowboy hat was bigger than life to an 8 year old like me. Grandaddy was a fan of this blue and yellow clad hero just as he was of other hard chargers like Cale, Donnie and Bobby, and Neil. As we sat on Sunday afternoons either watching the race on CBS or listening to them on MRN, Grandaddy would sometimes say "Earnhardt's comin!" Sure enough, that Wrangler car would wind up in the front and Grandaddy and I would smile. That Wrangler car turned into a Big Black Chevy with a forward slanted 3 on the sides. "The Man in Black" was my man. As I grew up, he remained that man with both me and Grandaddy. Back around the early '90's, I took my first trip to the hallowed ground of Talladega. As Sammy Carver and I sat with the other miscreants in the old wooden backstretch grandstands, Sammy would later say that I had the biggest permagrin on my face when I first saw that mean black 3 car go past on the parade lap. On the second lap, when all the cars are at full speed, I had tears in my eyes as the concussion of 43, 358cu inch engines thundered by at full song. Earnhardt didn't win that day but I witnessed the sheer finesse of Earnhardt as he used the air to thread his way through the field. I sat on those wooden bleachers twice a year for a few years then higher up in the shiny new aluminum ones.
While working for Lowes, I made friends with the marketing director of Lowes Racing in North Wilkesboro. He surprised me one April when he sent me an all access pit and garage pass for Talladega. (Cue Angels singing) I drove alone down to the track that Saturday because Sammy and the gang couldn't come until Sunday. I set up my tent in the infield and then walked through that hallowed gate into the garage. I immediately sought out the 3 stall and watched in awe as the crew worked on the car. I rambled around the garage. I even got to climb up on top of the 31 Lowes hauler and watched some of the Busch Race with an injured Mike Skinner and Richard Childress. I asked Mr. Childress where Dale was. He said he was probably either asleep or watching a young Dale Jr. race the Busch Race on tv in his motorcoach. I felt like a kid when Richard told me I could meet him when he came out for final practice. I climbed down and rambled around some more. The Busch race finished up and the Cup crews started scrambling about, preparing for practice. Suddenly, there he was. He stood beside the stall with Childress, alternating between laughing and pointing seriously at something he didn't approve on about the setup. I couldn't move. Here I was 8ft from my hero and I couldn't stammer out a word. Just then, Richard motioned me closer. He introduced me and told Dale I was from Seneca. Dale said "That's right next to Clampson!" then grinned that mischievous grin. It was all over from then because I felt I had to catch Dale up on almost twenty years of my life, how my Grandaddy loved watchin' both him and his dad. He lit up when I said that. He talked with me for about ten minutes like he had known me for years. "Time to get to work. Tell Grandaddy I said hello. It was good to meet you Scott!" And with that, he climbed in that Black Chevy and fired the monster up. I stood there like a deer in headlights with that permagrin all over my face. I followed him up until he turned to go into the inspection garage. I walked on out to a deserted pit road to watch happy hour practice. I found an empty spot about halfway up pit road and sat down on the pit wall. There was a smattering of other fans and other photographers but none within about thirty yards of me. I watched and snapped pictures as the cars took off up pit road to head onto the track while the rest thundered down the front stretch just across the infield from me. I turned to look as Dale pulled out of the garage area and rumbled up pit road. All of the sudden he stopped right in front of me. "Take a picture for your Grandaddy!" he yelled. He lit the tires up as I snapped the picture and waved at me as the car rocketed on down pit road. Permagrin.
Fast forward to February 2001. I watched Daytona with Grandaddy and Mom that day over at Granny's. The last lap was thrilling as DW called Brother Mikey home to his first win. Dale had hit the wall in turn 4. Nothing too spectacular. I had seen him upside down on fire numerous times only to have him walk away. This was beginning to sound a little more serious as we watched Ken Schrader run over to Dale's car, look in, and begin to frantically motion for the rescue units to hurry. The race broadcast ended without any news but you could see on DW's face that all was not right. I came on home and flipped on the TV. A little while later, a news conference broke in and there was big Mike Helton, a mammoth of a man, shaking as he told us we had lost Dale Earnhardt. It sounds silly I know but I am teary eyed as I write this. I broke down and just sat in the middle of my living room. I was stunned. Then the phone began to ring. My mother called, hysterical, asking if I wanted her to come down here. As soon as I hung up, the phone would ring again. "Are you Ok? Oh my God! How in the world...." I was beside myself as the reports continued on the TV and the calls continued. My good friend and former girlfriend Allanah Moore showed up at my door about an hour later. She was a Mark Martin fan but loved Dale as well. She knew how upset I would be. I cried like a little kid in her arms late into the night. The weeks that followed were rough, rougher here in the South especially. Funeral Homes all over put out guest books so that fans could come by and sign. Greenville-Pickens had set up a memorial on the backstretch in front of Ralph Earnhardt's name on the Wall of Champions. My cousin Amy and I went over there and signed the guestbook. The line around the track looked like a melting pot. There were people that didn't look like they had a pot to piss in standing right next to doctors and lawyers. Black and White, all talking, sniffing, and hugging as we shuffled together through that line. As Amy and I got to the book, we looked at all the notes, flowers and memorabilia that people had left. I left a copy of that picture from pit road that day. We turned and started back down the track. Maybe it was just my eyes tearing up but as I looked back across the infield there at GP, I swore I caught a glimpse of a muddy clothed little boy romping and playing as the rumble of big V8's surrounded him. In a blink of my eye, he was gone.
Part of my childhood, part of the South, and the shoulders that carried NASCAR died that day in turn four at Daytona. While I still went to Talladega after his death for a couple of years and saw Jr. thread the wind like his father taught him, it was never the same. Struggling Jr., Harvick, and a few more of the old timers still have my interest as the torch bearers of Dale's legacy. This thing they call Nascar racing today is a mere shell of what it used to be when that Black #3 was in the pack lurking, wating to pounce and rattle someone's cage.
Godspeed Dale. Hope you and Neil Bonnet are enjoying that fine hunting and fishing up there.
The rumble continues to fade up Hwy 76 and into the hills.....
Thus another game of cat and mouse was over. This game took place all over the hills of the South each night in the post war '40's. These young men challenged the law and the road each night to transport clear liquor to the towns and cities in the Foothills and Piedmont. Poverty was rampant in the South and a man could make a better living turning his corn into liquor instead of selling it by the bushel at market. An interesting product of these games with the law started coming to light. At many so called racetracks, mostly short circular rutted venues cut into the red clay, these young men brought their hauling machines to see just what they could do against their brethren. The movement flourished and the venues added bleachers and some sort of schedule. Many promoters at these tracks wound up in fights with their racers at the end of the event due to enforcement of "rules" that were made up on the go. Greenville-Pickens, Gaffney, Metrolina, Concord, Bowman-Gray, Waynesville, Asheville, and many other tracks hosted a ragtag bunch of competitors each week. Finally, in a smoky hotel in Daytona Beach, FL, one of these racers named France and a table full of others sat down and created Nascar. Nascar was to be a sort of governing organization for these races all over the Southeast. The first race of what was to become the "Winston Cup Series"(yes I will always call it that, Sprint be Damned!)was held in Charlotte in 1949. The rumble of that '40 Ford with the Cadillac engine came down out of the mountains and began a sport that would spread across the country.
Ralph Earnhardt had a shop in the backyard of his home on the corner of Coach and Sedan Street in Kannapolis, NC. He was a "linthead." He and thousands of other men and women across the South eeked out a living in the cotton mill. Ralph hated it. He loved racing. He walked away from the mill and concentrated on his racing. It was a rough life. His wife Martha and their children lived a lean life. Then, Ralph started winning. He was winning all over the Southeast, becoming Track Champion at numerous venues. They raced all week back in those days. Ralph and crew would get home from Greenville-Pickens and immediately prepare the car for the following night's race at Asheville. On and on the cycle went with a tow headed young Dale watching in the background, playing in the infield in the creek that used to run through Greenville-Pickens Speedway and risking a whipping when Ralph or Martha saw those muddy clothes. Gradually, Ralph let Dale grab a wrench or two and help him work on that mythical #8. Ralph was hard on his boy and instilled a work ethic in young Dale's mind. Ralph was disappointed when his son dropped out of school, quit his job at the mill and wanted to race like his dad. Dale was not to be deterred but Ralph gave him no quarter. Dale married young and became a father. His racing career stuttered. Dale would race just to pay the bill for his tires from his previous week's race. Life was hard. Ralph saw his son struggle. He may have helped him here and there but let Dale make his own way. Ralph was Dale's father but he was also his idol. The world seemingly crashed down on Dale in '73 when Martha found Ralph dead of a heart attack in their kitchen. His father, his mentor, his role model was gone. Dale's eyes hardened at that point and he began to bear down on his competition. Later in life, Dale told of his love of the Travis Tritt song, "I'm Gonna be Somebody". That is what he had told Ralph in those early years. In 1975, Dale drove his first Cup race in Charlotte for Ed Negre. The legend had started with a 22nd place finish.
Throughout his early career, Dale was chastised by competitors and fans alike for his hard charging style. Daryl Waltrip crossed paths with "Ironhead" numerous times. As he raced to rookie of the year his first full season, fans took note. People began to see themselves in the mustached former "Linthead" from Kannapolis. This "Everyman" did things on a racetrack they only dreamed of doing on I-85. He moved slower cars out of the way with the "Chrome Horn" and threaded his way through gaps where only angels would dare to tread. He dominated the sport leaving competitors shaking their heads on how in the world he did it.
The blue and yellow of that Wrangler car was very similar to the Bobcat's Blue and gold. The seemingly giant of a man with the big mustache and cowboy hat was bigger than life to an 8 year old like me. Grandaddy was a fan of this blue and yellow clad hero just as he was of other hard chargers like Cale, Donnie and Bobby, and Neil. As we sat on Sunday afternoons either watching the race on CBS or listening to them on MRN, Grandaddy would sometimes say "Earnhardt's comin!" Sure enough, that Wrangler car would wind up in the front and Grandaddy and I would smile. That Wrangler car turned into a Big Black Chevy with a forward slanted 3 on the sides. "The Man in Black" was my man. As I grew up, he remained that man with both me and Grandaddy. Back around the early '90's, I took my first trip to the hallowed ground of Talladega. As Sammy Carver and I sat with the other miscreants in the old wooden backstretch grandstands, Sammy would later say that I had the biggest permagrin on my face when I first saw that mean black 3 car go past on the parade lap. On the second lap, when all the cars are at full speed, I had tears in my eyes as the concussion of 43, 358cu inch engines thundered by at full song. Earnhardt didn't win that day but I witnessed the sheer finesse of Earnhardt as he used the air to thread his way through the field. I sat on those wooden bleachers twice a year for a few years then higher up in the shiny new aluminum ones.
While working for Lowes, I made friends with the marketing director of Lowes Racing in North Wilkesboro. He surprised me one April when he sent me an all access pit and garage pass for Talladega. (Cue Angels singing) I drove alone down to the track that Saturday because Sammy and the gang couldn't come until Sunday. I set up my tent in the infield and then walked through that hallowed gate into the garage. I immediately sought out the 3 stall and watched in awe as the crew worked on the car. I rambled around the garage. I even got to climb up on top of the 31 Lowes hauler and watched some of the Busch Race with an injured Mike Skinner and Richard Childress. I asked Mr. Childress where Dale was. He said he was probably either asleep or watching a young Dale Jr. race the Busch Race on tv in his motorcoach. I felt like a kid when Richard told me I could meet him when he came out for final practice. I climbed down and rambled around some more. The Busch race finished up and the Cup crews started scrambling about, preparing for practice. Suddenly, there he was. He stood beside the stall with Childress, alternating between laughing and pointing seriously at something he didn't approve on about the setup. I couldn't move. Here I was 8ft from my hero and I couldn't stammer out a word. Just then, Richard motioned me closer. He introduced me and told Dale I was from Seneca. Dale said "That's right next to Clampson!" then grinned that mischievous grin. It was all over from then because I felt I had to catch Dale up on almost twenty years of my life, how my Grandaddy loved watchin' both him and his dad. He lit up when I said that. He talked with me for about ten minutes like he had known me for years. "Time to get to work. Tell Grandaddy I said hello. It was good to meet you Scott!" And with that, he climbed in that Black Chevy and fired the monster up. I stood there like a deer in headlights with that permagrin all over my face. I followed him up until he turned to go into the inspection garage. I walked on out to a deserted pit road to watch happy hour practice. I found an empty spot about halfway up pit road and sat down on the pit wall. There was a smattering of other fans and other photographers but none within about thirty yards of me. I watched and snapped pictures as the cars took off up pit road to head onto the track while the rest thundered down the front stretch just across the infield from me. I turned to look as Dale pulled out of the garage area and rumbled up pit road. All of the sudden he stopped right in front of me. "Take a picture for your Grandaddy!" he yelled. He lit the tires up as I snapped the picture and waved at me as the car rocketed on down pit road. Permagrin.
Fast forward to February 2001. I watched Daytona with Grandaddy and Mom that day over at Granny's. The last lap was thrilling as DW called Brother Mikey home to his first win. Dale had hit the wall in turn 4. Nothing too spectacular. I had seen him upside down on fire numerous times only to have him walk away. This was beginning to sound a little more serious as we watched Ken Schrader run over to Dale's car, look in, and begin to frantically motion for the rescue units to hurry. The race broadcast ended without any news but you could see on DW's face that all was not right. I came on home and flipped on the TV. A little while later, a news conference broke in and there was big Mike Helton, a mammoth of a man, shaking as he told us we had lost Dale Earnhardt. It sounds silly I know but I am teary eyed as I write this. I broke down and just sat in the middle of my living room. I was stunned. Then the phone began to ring. My mother called, hysterical, asking if I wanted her to come down here. As soon as I hung up, the phone would ring again. "Are you Ok? Oh my God! How in the world...." I was beside myself as the reports continued on the TV and the calls continued. My good friend and former girlfriend Allanah Moore showed up at my door about an hour later. She was a Mark Martin fan but loved Dale as well. She knew how upset I would be. I cried like a little kid in her arms late into the night. The weeks that followed were rough, rougher here in the South especially. Funeral Homes all over put out guest books so that fans could come by and sign. Greenville-Pickens had set up a memorial on the backstretch in front of Ralph Earnhardt's name on the Wall of Champions. My cousin Amy and I went over there and signed the guestbook. The line around the track looked like a melting pot. There were people that didn't look like they had a pot to piss in standing right next to doctors and lawyers. Black and White, all talking, sniffing, and hugging as we shuffled together through that line. As Amy and I got to the book, we looked at all the notes, flowers and memorabilia that people had left. I left a copy of that picture from pit road that day. We turned and started back down the track. Maybe it was just my eyes tearing up but as I looked back across the infield there at GP, I swore I caught a glimpse of a muddy clothed little boy romping and playing as the rumble of big V8's surrounded him. In a blink of my eye, he was gone.
Part of my childhood, part of the South, and the shoulders that carried NASCAR died that day in turn four at Daytona. While I still went to Talladega after his death for a couple of years and saw Jr. thread the wind like his father taught him, it was never the same. Struggling Jr., Harvick, and a few more of the old timers still have my interest as the torch bearers of Dale's legacy. This thing they call Nascar racing today is a mere shell of what it used to be when that Black #3 was in the pack lurking, wating to pounce and rattle someone's cage.
Godspeed Dale. Hope you and Neil Bonnet are enjoying that fine hunting and fishing up there.
The rumble continues to fade up Hwy 76 and into the hills.....
Monday, December 27, 2010
10 feet tall and bulletproof
This is the second time this year I have written about the death of someone young. I hate that. This one will not be long because frankly I am at a loss for words. I think I will try and discuss the reason why we thirty and forty somethings react to such deaths the way we do. It's simple really. We all have that feeling lurking inside of us that we are still 10 feet tall and bulletproof like we were in our teens and twenties. Sure the grief is there because of the loss of a friend and a loved one but there is a knawing feeling down in the pits of our stomach. "Damn, he or she was the same age as me." Or, "Good Lord, he was so young!" Trite as it may seem to some, when the Lord calls you home, age doesn't matter. It is hard to understand why God takes some of our loved ones. It is not in our power to understand all of God's works. I am not trying to come across as preachy. I was raised up in the church but the good Lord knows I am no saint. BUT, I am a believer in the fact that the Lord has prepared us a paradise and Brian, Danny, Cory, and all the other ones who have been taken from us just as their lives got started, are there waiting on us. We'll all be reunited with them whether it be tomorrow or 40 more years from now. When we all got together last Thursday night, it was like all of us had just talked a couple of days before, not twenty something years ago. Time seems to cure all ills as well because you are happy to see that person even though they may have made your life a living hell way back when. People may think I am strange sometimes when I tell them I love them. Well, sorry that is just the way it is. I love the fact that you are still in my life after all these years even if the only time we get to talk is on this newfangled computer facebooky thang. I love the fact that we can talk all about the way back when's until we're blue in the face. I love the fact that when one of us is hurting and going through immortal hell, 99.676% of us are gonna be there with at least a comforting note or embrace. That is what I have seen the past few days. I am sure this is not unique to the small little community of Seneca and the surrounding areas. I am more sure of the fact that I am so happy to be from this little small community because there is really love here! Let's keep it flowing to these families, our families, in this time of turmoil. Another two young loved ones, gone too soon.
T. Scott Sanders
12/27/2010
T. Scott Sanders
12/27/2010
Monday, November 15, 2010
For God's Sake, it's not even Thanksgivin yet!
It seems to start earlier every year. This year, the Halloween decorations were competing with space next to the Christmas decorations in most stores. What's next? Live "fresh cut" Christmas Trees in September? As I write this, WYFF is reporting that a bunch of large retailers are staying open on Thanksgiving Day. Sacriledge. While Thanksgiving is not a "religious" holiday, isn't it typically a time to get together with friends and family to give thanks for the blessings you have received over the past year? Isn't it time for everyone to get stuffed, hit the den or living room for football, or just sit around and do some catching up? Oh well. "Thanks Grandma! I loved the turkey but I have to be at work in about 15 minutes. Oh I know I just got here, Grandma! I know. I know But I got to make a living somehow and I'll get blackballed if I don't show up today!" Orrrrrr "Oh my God. Wally World has got these coffee makers on sale today for $5. There won't be any left by the time we get there on Friday at 4:30am! Good to see ya'll but we have got to get moving. Mama, just keep that caserole dish and I'll pick it up when we come back for Christmas!"
Remember when people looked at you funny if you had your tree and house decorated before Thanksgiving? Remember when they didn't even turn the Christmas lights on in town until the MONDAY NIGHT (another change I'm not fond of) of the Christmas Parade? Now I am not becoming an Old Scrooge, Bah humbugging everything. But how about some "Remember whens" for this year.
Remember when:
You couldn't wait for the Sears, JC Penny, and Brendles Christmas Catalogs to arrive?
You took said catalogs and camped out in front of the fireplace or, in my case, that big ol' Seigler Oil heater to start dreaming about what Santa would bring you?
You actually got to take a trip to said stores along with TG&Y and Roses to gaze upon the acres of bicycles, dolls, games, trains, and slot car tracks?
You weren't worth a damn in school for the couple of weeks after Thanksgiving knowing that Christmas Vacation was coming?
Watching Rudolf, Charlie Brown, and all the other Specials were required veiwing for not just you, but the whole family?
Going to church and being in the Christmas Play the Sunday before Christmas and then going down to the basement or annex of the church to sing some hymns before picking up your bag of fruit and candy?
You rode around with the family and looked the Christmas decorations around town?
You made sure that the parents left the back door unlocked because you didn't have a chimney?
You walked in the living room to see that Huffy BMX bike in gleaming black sitting by the tree?
(I remember this one because my mom, my aunt donna, and I were all sick as a dog with the flu! the horror!)
You might have been a little disappointed you didn't get something you really wanted but you were really thankful for what you got?
You went to the big family gathering at your uncle's house on Christmas Eve then came home and opened some presents before going to bed?
You sometimes just laid down under the tree looking up through all the branches and lights listening to Burl Ives, Dean Martin, and the rest of the old greats sing REAL Christmas songs and read the REAL story of Christmas.
Sure, some of these time honored traditions have faded away as the world seemingly turns faster and faster. Perhaps we should all try and share some of these traditions with the youngsters this year. As all the Xboxes, Ipods, new cell phones, and laptops make all their noise on Christmas morning in some of your houses, take some time later on and lay down under that tree. Look up through those branches and lights and see if you can look back in time to a more simple age. Look up through all those branches and lights to the top of that tree, to the star, and thank God for sending us all that most precious gift of all.
T. Scott Sanders
11/15/2010
Remember when people looked at you funny if you had your tree and house decorated before Thanksgiving? Remember when they didn't even turn the Christmas lights on in town until the MONDAY NIGHT (another change I'm not fond of) of the Christmas Parade? Now I am not becoming an Old Scrooge, Bah humbugging everything. But how about some "Remember whens" for this year.
Remember when:
You couldn't wait for the Sears, JC Penny, and Brendles Christmas Catalogs to arrive?
You took said catalogs and camped out in front of the fireplace or, in my case, that big ol' Seigler Oil heater to start dreaming about what Santa would bring you?
You actually got to take a trip to said stores along with TG&Y and Roses to gaze upon the acres of bicycles, dolls, games, trains, and slot car tracks?
You weren't worth a damn in school for the couple of weeks after Thanksgiving knowing that Christmas Vacation was coming?
Watching Rudolf, Charlie Brown, and all the other Specials were required veiwing for not just you, but the whole family?
Going to church and being in the Christmas Play the Sunday before Christmas and then going down to the basement or annex of the church to sing some hymns before picking up your bag of fruit and candy?
You rode around with the family and looked the Christmas decorations around town?
You made sure that the parents left the back door unlocked because you didn't have a chimney?
You walked in the living room to see that Huffy BMX bike in gleaming black sitting by the tree?
(I remember this one because my mom, my aunt donna, and I were all sick as a dog with the flu! the horror!)
You might have been a little disappointed you didn't get something you really wanted but you were really thankful for what you got?
You went to the big family gathering at your uncle's house on Christmas Eve then came home and opened some presents before going to bed?
You sometimes just laid down under the tree looking up through all the branches and lights listening to Burl Ives, Dean Martin, and the rest of the old greats sing REAL Christmas songs and read the REAL story of Christmas.
Sure, some of these time honored traditions have faded away as the world seemingly turns faster and faster. Perhaps we should all try and share some of these traditions with the youngsters this year. As all the Xboxes, Ipods, new cell phones, and laptops make all their noise on Christmas morning in some of your houses, take some time later on and lay down under that tree. Look up through those branches and lights and see if you can look back in time to a more simple age. Look up through all those branches and lights to the top of that tree, to the star, and thank God for sending us all that most precious gift of all.
T. Scott Sanders
11/15/2010
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Remember when.....
Some summertime remember whens:
The only air conditioning in the house was that one window fan that pulled air all through the whole house.
You left the house early in the morning, came back or ate lunch at the neighbors, kept playing outside until supper.
Your parents didn't have to worry about you being abducted at every corner.
You got bored with the Atari and went back outside to really play.
Damming up a creek created a whole new world.
Getting a pool at TG&Y meant good times were coming soon!
Your family sat on the porch in the evenings while you caught 10 zillion lightnin' bugs in a pint mason jar.
That praying mantis on the front porch screen would spit at you if you messed with him (according to Granny)
Myrtle Beach had one amusement park.
Going to Six Flags was heaven and took the longest time to get there.
You went to Carowinds the first year it opened.
Oconee State Park was one of the most awesome places around.
You played backyard football or baseball in 100 degree weather.
Watermelon in the backyard in the evenings was awesome but hand cranked ice cream was always better.
Helping in the garden was fun although you didn't like to eat everything that was grown there.
The first time Grandaddy let you cut grass alone.
A one mile radius of your home had enough things to do in it to last you all summer.
Catching toad frogs only to have them pee on your hand.
Frog gigging.
Setting up ramps only to fail miserably at mimicking Knievel.
Spending the night in the clubhouse and staying up all night.
The Riverbanks Zoo and Greenville Zoo were really neat. (Still are!)
Vacation Bible School
Shucking corn or shelling butterbeans.
Waiting on the lighter fluid to soak in the charcoal.
Wasn't life a little easier back then?
The only air conditioning in the house was that one window fan that pulled air all through the whole house.
You left the house early in the morning, came back or ate lunch at the neighbors, kept playing outside until supper.
Your parents didn't have to worry about you being abducted at every corner.
You got bored with the Atari and went back outside to really play.
Damming up a creek created a whole new world.
Getting a pool at TG&Y meant good times were coming soon!
Your family sat on the porch in the evenings while you caught 10 zillion lightnin' bugs in a pint mason jar.
That praying mantis on the front porch screen would spit at you if you messed with him (according to Granny)
Myrtle Beach had one amusement park.
Going to Six Flags was heaven and took the longest time to get there.
You went to Carowinds the first year it opened.
Oconee State Park was one of the most awesome places around.
You played backyard football or baseball in 100 degree weather.
Watermelon in the backyard in the evenings was awesome but hand cranked ice cream was always better.
Helping in the garden was fun although you didn't like to eat everything that was grown there.
The first time Grandaddy let you cut grass alone.
A one mile radius of your home had enough things to do in it to last you all summer.
Catching toad frogs only to have them pee on your hand.
Frog gigging.
Setting up ramps only to fail miserably at mimicking Knievel.
Spending the night in the clubhouse and staying up all night.
The Riverbanks Zoo and Greenville Zoo were really neat. (Still are!)
Vacation Bible School
Shucking corn or shelling butterbeans.
Waiting on the lighter fluid to soak in the charcoal.
Wasn't life a little easier back then?
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Gone too soon,,,,
While I didn't know Brian Hilyer on a best friend basis, I do know one thing. The man was taken from us too soon. I write this viewing it from the sidelines of it all. Brian worked at our local ACE Hardware store here in Seneca. As I got to know him through the past 10 years or so, I found someone that was always helpful, knowledgeable, and would go the extra mile for the customer. It got to the point that I could call Brian for something and he would have it waiting for me when I got to the store because I was usually pressed for time. He also impressed my Mom who worked next door in the business office. If Mom called me and needed something, my first call would be to Hilyer and he would bring it over to her. Over the years I have learned that our good experiences with Brian were not out of the ordinary. They were pretty much the norm with him. I have talked with his fellow employees over the past couple of days and I firmly believe that it is like they have lost a brother or son. One of his coworkers who works at the Walhalla store had a hard time choking back the tears when we talked about him today.
The young ladies loved Mr. Hilyer too and it seems he had quite the following that thought he was a pretty handsome and nice dude. This coworker also mentioned that he had quite the customer following that considered Brian their personal "Helpful Hardware Man."
In a small store atmosphere, every employee considers the other family because you wind up spending more time with your coworkers than you do your real family. That doesn't mean you don't want to kill them sometimes but hell, you do that with your real family. I am still fairly close to the Tri County Family having spent many of my early years in the business there and of course with Mom being in the offices for 25 years or so. I haven't ever heard anyone say one bad thing about Brian. I really guess that's why I liked Brian and why his passing really bothers me. I guess we were kindred spirits in a way. I have always, no matter what company I worked for, tried to help my customer to the best of my ability and beyond. To my knowledge, Brian was the same way.
The other reason his passing bothers me so much is that he was so young. 36 years old I think. At 41, that's really hitting close to home. Look when you get to be 41, even people in their mid thirties are young. The point is you begin to question your mortality. NOBODY is promised tomorrow. That's why you must live life for the day! You must prepare for the future but let me tell you, things like this let you know real quick the future isn't a done deal. I am not the poster child for religion. I have done things in my past that would curl some hairs. BUT, I do believe in God's forgiveness and I do know that he has prepared a place for us. We will see all those we have befriended and loved in our lifetime that have gone before us when we arrive at those Pearly gates. My Grandaddy is waiting up there. Brian is up there waiting for us too.
Eric, Shannon, Emily, and the rest of the Hilyer family: If you are reading this, know that there are many prayers and many hands lifting your family up in this time of need. Brian was a great man. He was just gone too soon...
The young ladies loved Mr. Hilyer too and it seems he had quite the following that thought he was a pretty handsome and nice dude. This coworker also mentioned that he had quite the customer following that considered Brian their personal "Helpful Hardware Man."
In a small store atmosphere, every employee considers the other family because you wind up spending more time with your coworkers than you do your real family. That doesn't mean you don't want to kill them sometimes but hell, you do that with your real family. I am still fairly close to the Tri County Family having spent many of my early years in the business there and of course with Mom being in the offices for 25 years or so. I haven't ever heard anyone say one bad thing about Brian. I really guess that's why I liked Brian and why his passing really bothers me. I guess we were kindred spirits in a way. I have always, no matter what company I worked for, tried to help my customer to the best of my ability and beyond. To my knowledge, Brian was the same way.
The other reason his passing bothers me so much is that he was so young. 36 years old I think. At 41, that's really hitting close to home. Look when you get to be 41, even people in their mid thirties are young. The point is you begin to question your mortality. NOBODY is promised tomorrow. That's why you must live life for the day! You must prepare for the future but let me tell you, things like this let you know real quick the future isn't a done deal. I am not the poster child for religion. I have done things in my past that would curl some hairs. BUT, I do believe in God's forgiveness and I do know that he has prepared a place for us. We will see all those we have befriended and loved in our lifetime that have gone before us when we arrive at those Pearly gates. My Grandaddy is waiting up there. Brian is up there waiting for us too.
Eric, Shannon, Emily, and the rest of the Hilyer family: If you are reading this, know that there are many prayers and many hands lifting your family up in this time of need. Brian was a great man. He was just gone too soon...
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